Friday, November 04, 2005

Loneliness: Fight it or Express it?

What do you do when you feel lonely?

Do you reach out to others? Reach for your pet? Or go out to a public event?

Do you book your schedule so full that you don't have time to feel lonely at all? ever?

Everyone approaches it a little diffferently. Even when you are comfortable being alone, you still have times when you need to reach out. Call friends, invite them to go out. Call family members and decide to visit... there are any number of places you can go when you're feeling lonely.

But, what happens when you try to sit with the loneliness? I mean, really be at one with it and hear what that part of you has to say.. what feelings would it like to express? Sadness, perhaps?

What would happen if you let yourself feel the sadness?

Would it be so terrible to be sad and feel it. Would it be hard to accept loneliness? It's one of those feelings that you probably like to avoid- like going to the dentist. No one likes it, but it happens. Sadness is nothing to be afraid of. It makes you feel uncomfortable and like you want to run away. But, maybe.. just maybe, if you gave it a voice and an outlet to express the sadness and shed the tears.. maybe it wouldn't be so uncomfortable anymore. Maybe you'd actually feel lighter.... maybe give it a try. What's the worst that could happen? You might actually feel the feelings instead of run away from them. What a concept!

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